Okay so I'm not sure how to say this and there is no easy way so this one will be short. This week, my mom had her MRI done and they found a large mass in her abdomen and more than one tumor in her brain. She was given the option to do radiation on her brain and was going to do that. The doctors told me it wouldn't help her. I went in and told her that and she has opted out of any further treatment at this time. My mom doesn't have a lot of time left, and I was told "your mom is now coming to the end of her life and you need to spend time with her." It is a weird feeling and I know that this has been coming, but this is the most horrible thing I have EVER and will EVER have to watch. My mom does not deserve any of this and yet she still is suffering and fighting day in and day out. She is at home now and this time will not be easy........they have brought in HOSPICE to help also. My brother came home from the ARMY to see her before he has to go back on Friday. Everyone knows of her condition in the family and its sad that my brother has to go back but I think my mom would understand. If anyone has any advice for me or has gone through this before, let me know......until then keep thinking of her and know that she is not sick or hurting from the chemo/radiation at this time. :(
MA~ I LOVE YOU!
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I love you so much Emily. I know that you feel like you don't know what you're doing right now, or if there is a right way to spend this time with your mom, or what to say when it turns quiet when you're with her, or what is the best way to help her through this. I can assure you that because you have such a huge, giving heart filled with very deep and loving emotions for your mom and a level head to control those emotions, you will do and say just the right things for her.
One thing you might want to do with her while you can is to get out the old photo albums and help her to relive some of the best times of her life. Maybe even take video or pictures of this. She is an amazing woman with a lot of life experience to share. It might be a very healing experience.
I will be right here when you need me Em. I love you.
I am so sorry to hear this news. Please know that we are all hear for you and think of you and your mom. You have been the best daughter a mother could ask for. It is evident that your mother will pass very happy because of all the love you and your family give to her every day. Stay strong, Em, she wants you to.
oh emily. i am so sorry to hear this. i love the advice jen gave about old albums. i'm sure your mother would enjoy that.
remember that God is full of mercy. your mother, you, and your family have been fighting and stuggling and hurting. now is the time to just enjoy the last moments without a struggle. know emily that you will see her again and she will be made whole. no more cancer, no more tumors, no more pain.
my prayers are with you.
I'm so sorry. Cherish the time you have with her. You'll always have her in your heart.
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